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Emotional Freedom is Always Available (even in difficult situations)

You’re going into the crucible to shape and form your thoughts.   That comment hit me like lightning during a conversation I had with one of my closest friends.  We were talking about the trip I am on right now, traveling across the country to spend time with my parents.   People who know me (you don’t even have to know me that well or for very long) know very well that family has been Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Making a Date with Your True Self

Like clockwork, as soon as February 1st hits, we are inundated with Valentine’s Day-related messages and images. Most of them imply that romantic messages and gifts of flowers, sweets, and jewelry are the most effective way to show people how they feel about each other. I believe Valentine’s Day is still the most popular night to dine out and it’s still the number one day for fresh flower sales. Words like “love” and “romance”  flood Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Cultivating Your Intention for 2020

If you’ve never created a personal intention statement or done any values work, you are not alone.  Most people are not consciously aware of their values, even though they govern their lives. For example, when something happens that feels really good, that’s an indicator that a value is being expressed or honored. Conversely, when we feel bothered, frustrated or annoyed, that generally points to a value that is being stepped on in some way.    At Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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What’s Your Intention for 2020?

What’s Your Intention for 2020?   Welcome to 2020!  I’m hearing lots of talk about this being the year of clarity and vision.  It’s a new decade and a lot of people are stopping for a moment to reflect on what they have experienced over the last 10 years. For myself, I never could have anticipated my own crazy 10-year roller coaster where I: -Saw the end of my 18-year marriage -Moved to Buenos Aires Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Are You a Prisoner of Perfection?

It’s November, and last year at this time I dove into the theme of gratitude and included some useful gratitude exercises and resources.  If that’s what you’re in the mood for, click here.  It’s natural for us to think of gratitude at this time of year, as we’re likely looking ahead to the Thanksgiving holiday (my favorite!) and time spent with family and friends over a delicious feast.  Although Thanksgiving is traditionally the day we Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Can You Live Authentically and Thrive, or Do You Really Have to Fake It to Make It?

We are all familiar with that phrase, “Fake it till you make it.” We are so often told that if we want to be someone or something, we first have to pretend in order to reach our goal. In fact, when I look back on my life, from being raised to be tough and fierce, to being in a marriage where I felt like an alien when spending time with my ex’s family, to starting Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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How I Listened to Myself and Got to my Sweet Spot

How Listening to myself brought me to the Sweet Spot of life according to what I WANT and BELIEVE. It’s taken me many, many years, the majority of my life, to really listen to myself. Why?  Because like many of you, I had very strong influences about how I should be, what I should believe and what success looks like.  Sound familiar?   Back in 2014, I started my coaching journey which was a hugely Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Finding Flow

A few weeks ago, I received an email looking for coaches to co-lead a session introducing prospective coaches to The Co-Active Training Institute (CTI). My heart started beating quickly. We all have activities that give us that stomach-churning feeling of falling. I call these our “Personal High Dives.” One of my biggest high dives is public speaking. Even thinking about having to speak in front of a group with all eyes on me, would bring Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Releasing Invisible Baggage

Recently, I was working with a client who felt that she was being held back. On the surface this is not someone who would appear to be stuck or held back in any way. I know her to be successful in her work, happy in her relationship, with a reliable circle of friends. Intuitively, I asked what it was like for her growing up in her home. She shared that her childhood was a blur Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago