Insights

Are You a Prisoner of Perfection?

It’s November, and last year at this time I dove into the theme of gratitude and included some useful gratitude exercises and resources.  If that’s what you’re in the mood for, click here.  It’s natural for us to think of gratitude at this time of year, as we’re likely looking ahead to the Thanksgiving holiday (my favorite!) and time spent with family and friends over a delicious feast.  Although Thanksgiving is traditionally the day we Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Can You Live Authentically and Thrive, or Do You Really Have to Fake It to Make It?

We are all familiar with that phrase, “Fake it till you make it.” We are so often told that if we want to be someone or something, we first have to pretend in order to reach our goal. In fact, when I look back on my life, from being raised to be tough and fierce, to being in a marriage where I felt like an alien when spending time with my ex’s family, to starting Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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How I Listened to Myself and Got to my Sweet Spot

How Listening to myself brought me to the Sweet Spot of life according to what I WANT and BELIEVE. It’s taken me many, many years, the majority of my life, to really listen to myself. Why?  Because like many of you, I had very strong influences about how I should be, what I should believe and what success looks like.  Sound familiar?   Back in 2014, I started my coaching journey which was a hugely Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Finding Flow

A few weeks ago, I received an email looking for coaches to co-lead a session introducing prospective coaches to The Co-Active Training Institute (CTI). My heart started beating quickly. We all have activities that give us that stomach-churning feeling of falling. I call these our “Personal High Dives.” One of my biggest high dives is public speaking. Even thinking about having to speak in front of a group with all eyes on me, would bring Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Releasing Invisible Baggage

Recently, I was working with a client who felt that she was being held back. On the surface this is not someone who would appear to be stuck or held back in any way. I know her to be successful in her work, happy in her relationship, with a reliable circle of friends. Intuitively, I asked what it was like for her growing up in her home. She shared that her childhood was a blur Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Own Your Gifts & Grow Your World

What drives us to be so uncomfortable talking about our strengths? Give us a compliment or ask us to list our achievements, and most of us will shrink and deflect, our negative thought patterns come and we play small. I asked a recent client “Which of your qualities makes you excellent in your role?” “Ummmm…I know I’m good at my job, but I don’t want to sound like an obnoxious a**hole…” Do you struggle with Read more…

Resources

How to Flexibly Commit to Your Goals

Every January my gym is descended upon by a throng of committed new members who have made some form of new years resolution to be healthier. Usually, most of those new faces have vanished by the end of March. I often wonder about those people. Is their Inner Critic beating them up in April because they stopped going to the gym in March? No matter the type of resolution, we all fall off the wagon Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago
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Failure is not an “F” Word

We’ve internalized that failure is bad Whether it’s math, sports, or social situations, we’ve all had moments where we gave up on ourselves. We “failed” and that became a reason to quit. We interpreted these moments of failure into seemingly unchangeable truths about ourselves. They became our story. We say things like, “ I’ll never be good at math” or “I always say stupid things when I meet new people.” But “failure” is normal! The Read more…

By Carly Ebenstein, ago