What drives us to be so uncomfortable talking about our strengths? Give us a compliment or ask us to list our achievements, and most of us will shrink and deflect, our negative thought patterns come and we play small.

I asked a recent client “Which of your qualities makes you excellent in your role?”

“Ummmm…I know I’m good at my job, but I don’t want to sound like an obnoxious a**hole…”

Do you struggle with this? I do! I even struggled writing this blog because this topic hits such a chord with me.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

Marianne Williamson

If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I’m a BIG proponent of neuroplasticity. It’s the power to re-wire your brain! It’s what makes meditation and the growth mindset so powerful. I’ve written before about using that strength to re-frame our failures as success.

Sincerely owning our strengths without exaggeration changes our brains – we grow more confident in how we think about ourselves and (bonus!) it inspires others to do the same!

I asked my client to write down their strengths and share them with me. They responded with 5 truly wonderful qualities and I completely agreed with them – these were the qualities that made them a powerful gift in their workplace and in their life.

I asked them how it felt to really own their gifts:

“It was a bit uncomfortable, but more comfortable than before our session started! Something has shifted; this is about walking the talk. It’s an important practice for myself – but it’s also powerful to model at work and for my kids!”

That’s the power of self-love!

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

Marianne Williamson

Are you shrinking from your shine?

Comment below or reflect privately:

  • What are your top 5 strengths? What comes naturally to you but not others?
  • What does it feel like to talk about your strengths? How can you reframe that?
  • Who are the people that witness you playing small?
  • How will owning your strengths help them grow?

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