What drives us to be so uncomfortable talking about our strengths? Give us a compliment or ask us to list our achievements, and most of us will shrink and deflect, our negative thought patterns come and we play small.
I asked a recent client “Which of your qualities makes you excellent in your role?”
“Ummmm…I know I’m good at my job, but I don’t want to sound like an obnoxious a**hole…”
Do you struggle with this? I do! I even struggled writing this blog because this topic hits such a chord with me.
Your playing small does not serve the world.Marianne Williamson
If you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I’m a BIG proponent of neuroplasticity. It’s the power to re-wire your brain! It’s what makes meditation and the growth mindset so powerful. I’ve written before about using that strength to re-frame our failures as success.
Sincerely owning our strengths without exaggeration changes our brains – we grow more confident in how we think about ourselves and (bonus!) it inspires others to do the same!
I asked my client to write down their strengths and share them with me. They responded with 5 truly wonderful qualities and I completely agreed with them – these were the qualities that made them a powerful gift in their workplace and in their life.
I asked them how it felt to really own their gifts:
“It was a bit uncomfortable, but more comfortable than before our session started! Something has shifted; this is about walking the talk. It’s an important practice for myself – but it’s also powerful to model at work and for my kids!”
That’s the power of self-love!
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.Marianne Williamson
Are you shrinking from your shine?
Comment below or reflect privately:
- What are your top 5 strengths? What comes naturally to you but not others?
- What does it feel like to talk about your strengths? How can you reframe that?
- Who are the people that witness you playing small?
- How will owning your strengths help them grow?