Magic in the Mess
Praise vs Pride
Self Love Club
What do Hostage Negotiators and Marriage Counselors have in common?
What would Tony Soprano do?
The list above is a sampling of the potential blogs for this month that I have written and rewritten in my head, considered and then reconsidered as our world seems to shift every day and the definition and concept of “normal” becomes more nebulous. To say that some of us are experiencing life that resembles science fiction is hardly an exaggeration.
Everyone is experiencing the effects of this COVID-19 virus pandemic differently. Perhaps you’re a parent with kids who’s cooped up, trying to maintain your sanity and your job, while keeping your kids entertained and your family safe. Maybe you’re a business owner who’s trying to decipher the various financial packages and struggling to keep employees on the payroll while you figure out how to weather this storm. Some of you may be lucky to be employed with a company that is actually thriving, but the work environment is stressful or plain toxic and you feel like you have no choice but to stay with this company. Others may be feeling guilty because they’re not terribly impacted and are actually taking all these changes in stride, but they may also be empathic and impacted emotionally/psychologically about what others are going through.
Regardless of your current situation, I do hope that you are healthy and safe.
For myself, after adjusting to this massive shift in society and our everyday lives, it’s been somewhat surreal—despite the fact that I’m accustomed to working from home by myself (that’s how it’s been for most of my adult life), that I am fortunate to have a comfortable home and plenty of food and provisions (thanks to the earthquake preparedness vigilance of my partner, Steve). I’m quite fortunate to have some of my family nearby, a solid network of friends near and far, and a Zoom account(!). I can even continue working out as usual since we set up a mini home gym back in October. In so many ways, my everyday life is business as usual, while living outside of my bubble is anything but usual.
For example, as usual, Steve is in Korea, and I’m on my own with our dog, Joji. What’s not usual is that now there is a vast ocean between us as a result of the pandemic; we have no idea when it will be safe enough/possible to fly so that we can be together again.
A lot of people are doing what they can to encourage one another. We’re seeing examples of that everywhere. In all honesty though, I’ve felt a bit bombarded and overwhelmed by the outpouring of content—from live concerts on Instagram by people like Chris Martin and Lizzo, to evening readings by Marianne Williamson (so much generosity!) to friends reaching out from abroad to fill in the blank: It’s. All. So. Much. Even though I send my blog out monthly, I kept asking myself, “Do I really want to add to this hodgepodge?
The other day, I was talking with a friend who was marveling at all the ways we’re adapting in order to remain productive (in terms of work) and to get our needs met (such as working out at home), yet we’re also feeling a sense of isolation despite Zoom!
Then, it hit me —
I know that there are many parents who are feeling incredibly isolated despite being home with their kids 24/7. I know of couples whose tensions are rising because the professional and social contact they used to enjoy outside of the house is no longer accessible. Then there are people who live alone and are advised to have food delivered because their age or medical condition puts them at a higher risk. I’m sure we all know of people who are really struggling with feeling isolated even while they are around the people nearest and dearest to them. I also recognize that there’s a lot of stress and anxiety about jobs, health, relatives, the economy, etc. I feel like we’re all on a giant roller coaster together—I get it. If you are feeling like you want a space where you can talk about these challenges and connect on a more personal level, where you can take a deep, cleansing breath, so to speak, you are not alone.
For this reason, I’m offering a group check-in on Monday, April 13th at 7 pm PST. This call is by optional donation and all proceeds will go to the CDC Foundation. If this is something that interests you, please send me an email, and I will send you the Zoom link.
If there are more than 5 people who respond (I prefer small groups), I will arrange other calls.
If any of this interests you, but it doesn’t work logistically or you prefer a different topic, please let me know, and I’ll take that into consideration.
On this call, we will do a check-in and I will share some tools and strategies that have helped me get my bearings over the last couple of weeks. I will also invite you to share any tools that have been particularly helpful for you, as I’m sure I’m not the only one who has something to offer.
While we are all in this together, it’s important to recognize that we’re all experiencing the COVID-19 situation differently. You have likely heard a lot about kindness and I ask that you begin by extending that to yourself. You’ve never experienced this before and I’m certain that you’re doing your best. Your best might be different day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute. Still, please know that your best is often more than enough.